Jesus (Y’shua) is quite clear. To be obedient to him, we must overcome our natural distaste for conflict and avoidance of such situations. Remember, we are not choosing ‘conflict’ but rather we are choosing to be obedient to Jesus’ (Y’shua) commands in dealing with that conflict.
If you look deeply into this you will find that the Matthew 18 Process is, in fact, The Body of God’s way of healing itself, becoming more perfect and healthy. Unfortunately, if we choose our natural instincts to avoid the Matthew 18 Process we will never be able to be used by Jesus in this perfecting process.
Please note also that the Scripture does not say if you find sin in your brother, for there is only one who is without sin, but it says that if your brother sins against you. So the Matthew 18 Process is clearly a conflict resolution process between brothers and sisters.
We are not to confront each other in an angrily, hateful, or condemning way, on the contrary, we are supposed to have a long-suffering, patient, motherly type of approach with each other. This is all meant to lovingly and kindly nurture each other while lovingly and gently exposing your brother’s faults to the light of the Truth out of the Scripture. The difference is the motivation. Whether we are acting out of love and produce health or are acting out of anger, selfishness, or pride and produce destruction.
Jesus (Y’shua) commands all believers to deal with sins committed against them by another brother or sister using the Matthew 18 Process. Discussing the offense outside of the Matthew 18 Process, except in gaining council, is not allowed and is a serious sin because it is the spreading of unfounded rumors and gossip. If that situation became known to others through idle talk, that may now be a cause for a disciplinary action against the one who was originally sinned against. So be careful about idle talk!
Take a stand! Be obedient and win over your brother or sister. For the sake of the Kingdom. For the sake of the health of the Body of God (Jesus/Y’shua).
written by Dave Rogers